Hi Pink Daisy! Welcome to the site!
One of the things that I do, when I'm in doubt. I take a blank sheet of paper and a pen. Then, I write down this question... (and, this is for real... not a joke or anything, even though it may sound like it):
"What would an adult do in this situation?"
If I still have doubts, or can't get clear, I add a word to it: Mature.
"What would a mature adult do in this situation?"
The reason I do this is: When I'm emotionally disturbed, it's easy to fall back into childish thinking for me. Hoping and wishing for things that are imaginary and not based in reality. So, when I pause... and ask myself the question above, it's like it goes to a deeper place inside of me, where maturity... once in a while can be found.
Maybe... you might want to give it a try and then log-in and share with us what you came up with.
Please don't misunderstand my message above.... It has nothing to do with you -- or maturity. It's not about you. It's simply "how" I get some of my own answers in similar situations... so, it's really, "all about me."