Hey Lauren. Wasn't passing any judgement on to you or on you. I was sharing about me -- and what I would do and my insight, as you requested. It wasn't about you.
What you personally do, believe, feel -- is not my business. And, I have no opinion on what you do. The only thing that's my biz and that I have an opinion on is me and what I do.
When I listen to someone share their personal experience and think it's about me, or think that they are judging me -- I've learned that -- for me, what's really going on -- the thing that matters (regardless of what they do) -- is that I'm judging and condeming myself.
Many years ago, I learned a little tool that I love and use often. It's called Johari's Window. Through this tool, I learned that there is information about me that I am blind about. I can't see it. Only someone outside myself can see it. And, I'll always be blind about it unless I ask them to tell me what they see about me that I can't see about me.
Also, with Johari's Window -- I learned that there are things about me that only I know about me -- and things about me that I don't know and others don't know either.
The comfort I get from Johari's Window -- is the awareness -- that I don't always have all the facts.
And, I'll never have all the facts.
All I have is my current perception of what I think might be the facts and what I think might be the facts are not always facts.
The reason that comforts me is: I no longer have to be right. I only need to take the right now action -- right now. And, when I take the right now action right now -- because it's the right action to take right now -- I don't have to think about the -- next right action. This keeps my head from spinning and keeps me out of thinking and into action.
Thinking -- is my number one problem. Thinking -- rather than doing -- will always cause me misery.
Best wishes to you and for you, too!