that's pretty awesome you called.. yeah, sometimes it's hard for me to work with AA's who are not at the willing to go to any lengths place. because when I came in i WAS. Hell, I followed directions on getting a job at the local AA hangout, STARBUCKS, in my first year though I thought it was the worst idea and VERY beneath my standards, ha! But I also need to remember that this time around was my 9th year at "trying" to get sober in AA. When I find a new member that is as willing, ready and beaten doen as I was (finally), it is the pleasure of all pleasures in my AA exp. And though having someone in AA ask for my aide that is in that place isn't a complete rarity, it is not as often as the times I am approached by someone desperate enough to ask for help but who is so self-involved, self-pitying, anything but humble or aware of my precious time and who is still sure that their best ideas about alcoholism could beat out not only, mine but oldtimer they hear and the damn BIGBOOk itself! That's a challenge! I guess I was taught to never say no to AA, and when it came to newcomers that stands, and that also, part of directing someone to their own Step 1 ussually comes with the exp that no AA is going to swoop in and help wipe there own ass if they are to lazy to bring the toilet paper! I do eventually move on if someone isn't showing up with the toilet paper. But I also keep in mind that many (do to money, free-rides, lots of "luck" and enablers in their life often) don't know when they walk in the rooms or ask for help that they were supposed to bring it inthe first place! So if they don't I let'm know. I posted a few days ago about how the first week I had a personal mtng w my sponsor and i showed up 5 mins late and she was gone! When I called her she didnt say she was done with me, but she said her time was important, there were other alcoholics and if I cant use my cell to say I am 5 mins late she doesnt know me well enough to know I'll be there at all and she will leave. And then she said I could reschedule. There were 2 reasons I rescheduled.
one: I WAS DONE! I was desperate and I was out of solutions.
but # two was important also: I'd had a few days already to see and hear her talk that gave me the idea that I wanted what this woman had.
Sorry to go on so lengthy! I'm having a bit of a rough day, and typing on here is seeming to cause a lot less chaos than trying to figure out my own probs today
And lastly, I feel you on the call, it frusterated me for you! I do know that exp well! from both side - me as you and me as a AA you called..