Do you take someone with you -- when you go to care for your mother?
Here to check in! I'm doing better than deserved. I'm sober, healthy, reasonably happy, and sane most of the time.
I've had a couple of insane ideas come up -- that dealt w/ my mother also. I spent 13 good years of my life -- taking care of my mother, doing all that I could to be of service to her. The results were not what I had hoped they would be -- and, my insanity was: "Maybe, one more time -- and this time it will be different!"
I'm resolved to talking to my sponsor before taking those kinds of actions again. And, I believe, based upon my past experience and guidance, what his answers and suggestions will be. Too many times, in this process of "growing up sober" -- I've taken wonderful actions, based on perfectly good motives, with honorable intentions -- that have blown up in my face.
Sometimes, good ideas, with the best of intentions and motives -- are not always wise ideas. Gees??? Isn't that what I read the first time I read Chapter 5, How it works?
We do the honorable thing -- but, it still ends up stepping on someones toes -- and they retaliate. Then, we end up feeling sore -- with plenty of reasons to justify it.
My mother has Alzheimers in the advanced stage. She doesn't even have a clue who I am when I see her.
Best wishes for all! Enjoy another wonderful day in Sober Paradise!
Thanks to all of you for being in my life and for your participation in my sobriety!