Sounds like your husband may be working for some of the same studios that I had worked for!
Probably not -- though. But, some things, in some industries do not often change.
Perhaps the fear is your gut and your experience trying to talk to you. Perhaps, it's all that AA that's seeped into your head that's making you uncomfortable.
When I first came to AA, some told me that "we may not be able to keep you sober but we're sure going to screw up your drinking!"
I thought they were joking -- until I started drinking again!
What I've seen that has happened to me, and to many others is: It almost seems like the Good Life can be a curse for us. We stay sober and do the things we're supposed to be doing -- as if we were drowning. Then, we get pulled to the shore. Saved. Rescued. Life get's good. We start slacking off.... gradually... and it isn't long that we're thinking: "I've got this under control! It's been months now since I've been to a meeting! And, I've had no desire whatsover for a drink!" We may pick the BB up off the shelf... if we remember what shelf it's on, or if we find it under our bed... dust the dust off of it. Look at it. And, maybe even briefly open it. And, we think! I sure am grateful for this book and for AA! I was pretty bad off -- and this saved my life! Look at me today! I'm successful. I got money in my pocket. Relationships are good. Health is good. And, I remember when I used to have to try so hard -- to do the things i had to do -- just to stay sober!
We don't know how long it takes to get to that stage. For some it could be six days, or six weeks... six months, or six years! I've seen some that were out there 24 yrs and 364 days... and on the 365th day... 25 yrs... hubby (that has never seen her drink or drunk)... says "Gee sweetie! It's been 25 yrs for you today! Let's go to diner and celebrate!" As the are enjoying the meal... the non-alcoholic hubby says, "Honey! If you went 25 yrs. controlling it -- surely, you can have one glass of wine w/ dinner!" Wife-ee says... "I don't know... maybe." That was all it took. She had the one glass and controlled it that night. She wanted to guzzle the bottle, but refrained. She spent the next year drunk nearly every day. I saw her for a while -- a newcomer again, but when you've been sober a long time and go back to drinking -- I think we get worse off than when we were newcomers that went back to drinking! The alcoholism is progressive. It's doing push ups while we're sleeping sober. It's like a gorilla that's been in a cage. Suddenly, we find out hand in the cage petting it. Then, we let it out for a little dance. And, maybe it's fun for a while. The problem is: The dance is not over until the gorilla decides it's over -- and the gorilla loves to dance!