This is why I prefer to stay into action rather than into thinking.
Simple: if I'm thinking of doing anything w/ Self -- getting rid of, improving, etceteras -- I'm being Self-obsessed and Self-centered. I'm Self-defeating myself and self-defeating the actions I take to not be thinking about my Self.
I believe that the primary objectives of the actions of the 12 Steps is: to get my mind off of thinking about myself. If I'm not thinking about myself -- I'll automatically be having spiritual experiences. If I'm not thinking about myself -- I'll automatically get better and recover. By not focusing on myself -- I'm getting out of God's way (Life) of healing me.
Example: Let's say I'm trying to be less self-centered. If that's my focus and my objective -- what's my mind focused on? Self.
Now, let's say that my focus is on taking actions -- that will cause me to be thinking about myself less? Example: Being of service. Thinking of others. Trying to help another alcoholic that's having a tough time. Where will my mind be focused? It will be focused "Off of my Self" and the net result will be: that I'm actually be-ing less Self-centered.
This is why I don't even like discussing Self. It isn't necessary. It's like discussing my drunk-a-logs. How can discussing my drunk-a-logs help me or others? It focuses my mind on drinking -- rather than focusing my mind on Sobriety.
There is no way to discuss Self -- without being Self-ish and thinking about Self.
Action is the magic! Focus on taking actions. Focus on Do-ing. What we Do is what we Be-come.