Hello there-I feel for your situation. I was around this program for 11 years by going to meetings with my husband, but I never identified with being an alcoholic myself, until I finally hit my bottom and asked for help. It takes what it takes. If you keep on going to meetings, you will be improving your life, and that's all you can do. If your husband sees how you are improving your life, he might just follow suit! Just remember, that I can only do this program for me, and not anybody else.