jd2683 wrote: 2) I'm in the SA and MH field, my major was psychology. Currently I'm working for a contractor for Medicaid in Substance Abuse.
jd2683 wrote:I know the dogma says don't start any relationships for 6 months to a year after starting the program. I realize of course that this is just that, dogma, but all dogma is founded in truth.
jd2683 wrote:I should also mention here that as he and I were talking, we discovered that he came through one of my employers programs. As such, that means that I have access to all of his treatment files. Again, for professional and ethical reasons, I wouldn't look at them, but I do wonder if anyone out there sees any potential issues with this?
Sure! Here are the potential issues:
1. If you have been trained to be a professional in the substance abuse and mental health field -- and you are already working in this field -- you should already know -- that this is a huge no-no for you.
2. You should already know that it is a huge no-no for the person that you are interested in.
3. Dogma: I've never conversed w/ anyone yet -- that uses the word dogma -- as you have, that is convinced of the "validity of the dogma." They most often use it in a discussion, as you did -- because they don't believe and are not thoroughly convinced of the "truth" in the dogma. This is most often done by someone who has a self-interest desire -- to go against the principles in the truth.
4. Perhaps you should consider joining Al-Anon. You do qualify. Your roomates and the fact that you are interested in pursuing a relationship with an alcoholic -- recovering or not. You may want to observe the Psychology of the interest.
5. On a professional level and on a personal level -- it's what the actual pursuit of this relationship would say about you. a). You're more interested in your own personal self-interest -- than the interest of a 1. Client, or 2. A person in recovery. And, 3., with your professional training -- you know that you should consider this person on the same level as "a patient" that is receiving out-patient care. 4. If you are not aware of this -- and you can't distinquish between patient & practioner -- either you are in the wrong field, or you are not adequately trained to be in the field.
6. Because of the above -- you're not only risking the recovery of "the patient" -- if something goes wrong -- and, from experience, let me tell you, for sure it will go wrong -- you're risking losing your professional standing, being black-balled in regards to working in the field, and losing any opportunity of licensure & certification -- forever.
7. When it does go wrong -- expect to also be sued. Yep. When the alcoholic fails -- resentment will be the #1 offender -- and you'll be the one that gets ALL the blame. And, you can expect to get the full blame for years to come -- if... this person continues to be active in 12 Step Programs. You will be laughed at, ridiculed, and blamed for "the patient's" lack of success -- and if they are successfull -- you'll be talked about in re: "what not to do & what to watch out for" for longer than you'll live.
You are the one -- that because of your professional training -- that will be held to a higher standard -- and higher amounts of punitive damages will be awarded against you in a legal judgement against you, and possibly your employer will be dragged into it also.
8. The benefits of pursuing this relationship? None.
9. The risks? The odds are so far against you it would be like putting money in a slot-machine -- expecting to make a hit that will pay out a jackpot for the rest of your life. Nothing less than insanity.
I could go on and on and on. 24 yrs as a recovered alcoholic that is familiar with hundreds of these scenarious -- and as one, that has just maybe -- had the equivalent professional and legal education that you have received -- in the SA/MH field -- I'll let you go ahead and write #10. You may be convinced that I'm just brainwashed w/ "the dogma."
Best wishes on your decision and your future. I don't know you. I don't know the paitent. All I know is experience. I'm not out to get you. I'm not against the professional community. I have no dog in the dogma fight.