There are many wonderful things in this world that we can do to help others. When I do some of those things -- I consider it "in addition to" what I do in AA and never as a part of or a substitute for -- what I do in AA.
One thing I am reminded of, when it comes to going to meetings is: Most alkies that don't go to the meetings most often go back to drinking.
Some people don't get sober in AA. I was not one of them. They got sober without AA -- so I guess I could see and understand that they would feel no sense of duty -- or personal responsibility -- to support the AA Fellowship. I do it because I do consider it my responsibility to do it. I got sober in and through and with AA. It saved my life.
I think that for many of us -- we go through spurts where we don't want to go to meetings and we rationalize "why" we don't need to go.
I listened to a speaker last night that is sober for about 47 yrs. He said, "I know I could make it on one meeting a week -- but I attend them almost daily." He said, "I do that because I don't know which one of the meetings in the week was the meeting that I needed."
I no longer go to meetings looking for support or help -- I go to support and help. I don't know how I could practice the 12th Step, without the Fellowship and the meetings. The reason is: Yes, I can find an alkie outside of the meetings to help. And, I do that, because I do go looking to find them. But, then, what do I do with them -- after I find them? They need help & support. They need the meetings. And, if I'm not "a part of" and I'm being a a part from -- how can I really help the newcomer to recover?
For me -- that's what my whole life & sobriety is about -- not trying to help me myself -- but trying to help the other alcoholic stay sober. By doing this -- it's kept me sober for the last 24 yrs.
Thanks for letting me share!