As well as a 'To Do List' i was taught to have a 'To Be List' where i would write down all the qualities i thought a decent human being would have. Things like kindness, honesty, respectful, tolerant,helpful, encouraging, complementary etc, all things i couldnt be unless there was a drink in it for me.
Once i found out my defects i had to replace them with some assets. If i work on the above list as best as i can then the defects will go and the assets will grow.
I make a point of complimenting someone everyday, be it the girl in the coffee shop or some guy i work with. Nothing to flattering or self serving just enough to let them know what they do is appreciated.
Helps keep my negative side in check