Thanks Ben. That was a great reminder for me. I remember when I never fit and it had NOTHING to do with race, age, etc. It was inside of me. That Lonliness. Now, I rarely feel that and I believe that is a direct result of the Steps and a Higher Power connection.
Even travelling abroad, being unique in many outside senses at my job as well, and in the rooms, no matter where I am, I finally feel like I fit. Not sure when that happened because, like my friend, it took time. I know that if she keeps applying these steps in her life and coming back, the miracle will happen. It's strange how we change without notice around here.
She has a sponsor and is very involved in service. She, like myself at some points, wonders if this whole thing is really going to keep working. She only has a few examples here of long term soberiety. I tear up thinking of her courage to blaze this trail but I also know it is because she, like myself, wants to stay sober.
After a while I stopped questioning why it worked and started just doing it. When I live in that simplicity, it works and I have peace.