My suggestion for you is: Relax and take it easy.
We can't make up for everything in one day and most often can't do it in one year.
Keep your recovery & sobriety #1 in your life -- and everything else will work it's way out.
You'll know when it's time to do something more or less.
The problem w/ your husband is a common one. I've heard it from many others.
Usually -- after some time & effort on both parts -- it will work out.
It would be great if your husband attended Al-Anon.
Unfortunately, it might be a bad idea if you suggested it to him.
It would be kind of like it was when he may have been suggesting that you stop drinking.
And, there are ways to make the suggestion -- without him knowing that you're planting the seeds
of suggestions. Example: Leaving some Al-Anon literature laying around the house -- that you
left laying around "because you got it for you to read."
He will want to know what you're reading -- so he'll probably pick it up and read it -- when he thinks you won't see him reading it.
If he knows that you know he's reading it -- he probably won't read it.
When we're cleaning house -- it's best to start in a small corner.
Do what we can in that corner -- and eventually work out from that corner.
I hope that helps.