Welcome to the site, LynnPinn, I hope that you find what you're looking for.
Yes. Some of those meetings are really scary! It can almost seem like Halloween night! Goblins. Monsters and witches!
But, most of them -- will be sober.
And, I'm sure that for most of them -- in the beginning, it was pretty scary for them, too!
Please feel free and encouraged to hang out here with us until you do find what you're looking for. And, also I hope you'll hang out here with us, afterwards, too!
Wishing the best for you!