To continue with the topic of change via the AA programme itâ€™s been my observation lately that my fellow alcoholics that are so outspoken against change and seem to be anti-programme are the ones that are financially sorted for the rest of their lives. Over here these people all seem to have nice secure jobs, i.e. local government posts, big corporations, utilitites companies etc, that pay a good salary and a good pension at the end of 30 yrs service so why do they need to change? Some are already on a pension from a previous career and now have another salary to go with it. Others are 3rd generation in the same line of work and just like their folks before them all they have to do is sit still and keep doing the same thing day in and day out and someone will take care of them until the day they die. The fear they have of losing this whole protected way of life tells them not to change as they try really hard to stay under the radar so no one will even know theyâ€™re here! Anyone mention change to people like this and they see it as a threat to their financial stability. Just dare mention the word from a Top Table and they look at you as though we were trying to put them out on the street!
For them to change is to get noticed and to get noticed means they may be asked to perform a task thatâ€™s outside their comfort zone and then maybe just maybe their game will be up, they may be found wanting and then they could be asked to justify their privileged existence? Then panic sets in and they run to the HR (Human Resources) department telling them theyâ€™re being bullied and victimised in the workplace! HR then gives them a huge big hug and sends them off for 6 months retraining on â€˜ Coping With Change, How to Stand on Your Own Two Feet.â€™ Which is exactly what AA had been trying to teach them all along!
But the greater danger is these people eventually do retire and with all their new found spare time they throw themselves at AA meetings driving around the county in their nice new cars telling befuddled newcomers, who like myself come in unemployed and unemployable, that theyâ€™ve been attending the fellowship for the last 30 yrs and they havenâ€™t had to change one iota! Therebye everyone stays sick.
The fact that their long suffering partner and kids move out the family home the minute they retired into it never even gets a mention. As long as there bank accountâ€™s all right then everythingâ€™s fine isnâ€™t it, after all theyâ€™re still not drinking so who needs a programme of change?
Thank God it was never like that for me!