I think we have a few threads here in the forum where we've discussed this at length. However, it seems that I've always been one who's held to the belief that "If one is good -- more is better!"
Welcome to the forum! You and your participation and message is most appreciated!
And, it's timely, too!
Last night another oldtimer with 23 yrs sober had called me and left a message. It was late when I had returned the call. He was upset that some members at a local AA club had called the police on him.
Evidently, another oldtimer w/ 30 yrs sober, moved his books and sat someone else down in the chair that he had been sitting in while the 23 yr oldtimer had gotten up to get a cup of coffee.
This has happened more than a few times, where the 30 yr seemed to be picking on and disrespecting the 23 yr member -- of moving his books, pushing them off a table and onto a floor, etceteras.
The discussion got heated -- profanity was swirling -- threats of violence and scuffling.
The Chairwoman of the club -- told the 23 yr member he would have to leave or stop using the profanity.
The 23 yr member replied to the Chairwoman "What the f* are you talking to me about using profanity when nearly every word that comes out of your mouth is f* this and f* that?"
The police were called, and after they ran the 23 yr member for warrants & he was clean... the officer said to him "Look. That old sob is sick and miserable. I don't think he'll be changing."
The experience has a few similarities to the problem you mentioned -- but, as I see it, there is ONE major difference...
Your meeting is NOT being held in an AA Club house... where disruptions in meetings or behavioral offenses or profanity have become common.
The Hospital -- is the Landlord of the meeting space. They have rules and suggestions and guidelines. And, it's either -- live up to the rules, suggestions and guidelines -- OR go find a different place to meet.
I believe that this is the same thing that needs to be said to the disruptive member... "We do have some rules and suggestions and guidelines for our meetings purpose -- they are rules that are imposed upon us -- to provide a safe, sane and profane free environment that is conducive to recovery. So, IF WE would have to find a different meeting, because we are unwilling to change and conform -- then, YOU need to find a different meeting, if YOU are unwilling to change and conform."
You are not denying the person access to AA. They can go find a different meeting where their language or behavior is acceptable to the group -- or, he/she can go start their own autonomous group.
It would be BEST to have other members of the group, together, with the person who is passing this message on to the offender... so that it's a group decision. Because without their support -- it could likely backfire.
Sometimes, a group will want an oldtimer to do it's dirty work of necessity -- but, then, not support the oldtimer doing the groups work.
One of the first lessons a person in recovery should learn is: "We have some privileges -- that are not rights." And, there is a huge difference in rights and privileges.