I'm sure that most of us -- who have sober for a while -- have gone through phases when we've felt: "This recovery program isn't working for me! I feel like I'm getting worse! When is the good stuff going to happen for me?"
I believe, that this is normal for us to go through these phases. I don't believe it's normal to stay stuck in them.
My experience has been, when I've gone through those phases is: I left something out -- or I was leaving something out. There was either something that I had failed to do -- entirely and thoroughly -- or, I had just not done it at all. And, then, there were those times that I got away from doing what I knew I should be doing -- and relaxed on my laurels calling for a "recovery time out!"
I learned to get out of those phases by going back through the 12 Steps and asking myself serious questions like:
Have I really confessed all that I should have confessed? (Step 5)
What did I leave out of my Inventory? (Step 4)
What are the character defects that I've continued to hold on to, and refused to give them up? (Steps 6 & 7)
Who, where, and when -- did I not make the amends, that I should have made? (Steps 8 &9)
Have I been diligent and disciplined to at least take a daily inventory? (Step 10)
How has my prayer & meditation experience been going? have I been doing it? (Step 11)
Have I been calling my sponsor? Did I follow my sponsors suggestions -- or did I substitute it for a "good ideal of my own" because he "just didn't understand"? (Step 3, made a decision to go to any lengths -- and to follow direction).
When is the last time, and how often have I been reading the Big Book? (Yes. The Big Book -- our text book, and not the 12 & 12, or some other 'Daily Reflection' type book)? (Required for continued practice of Steps 1 & 2).
What meetings, and how often have I been attending them? (Step 12)
The meetings that I did attend: Did I just go to socialize? Or, to get something for me -- that I needed? Or, did I go there to serve and to be helpful to the meeting or to someone else? (Step 12)
When is the last time I offered my help, or let a "still drinking alcoholic" know -- that I had found a solution that has worked for me -- and it is available to them -- should they ever decide that they might like to try it, also? (Step 12).
As I look at the list above and answer the questions -- I can often discover a "pattern" where there has been one area of the Recovery Program, that I seem to continuously fail or do less than I should be doing -- to experience a healthy recovery with continued sobriety -- AND which will continue to keep me: Happy, joyous, free -- and comfortable -- while sober.
I hope that this may help you as much as it helps me.