Hi, we were discusssing when is it time to change your home group?
Guess i'm a bit like Keith, i like to be in a group thats part of our worldwide fellowship of AA and not one that's cutting corners because some members want to practice minimum input and maximum output from AA.
There are also some groups i stay away from because you just know there is a big ' black cloud' hanging around that venue. Usually some bitter old guy waiting to pounce should anyone dare mention the recovery programme!
We also have guys here doing service meeting employers at mental health seminars in fancy hotels but these same guys don't even have a message to carry to the drunk sitting next to them in a meeting? They sponsor no one and condem any mention of the Big Book or the 12 Steps?
But as i was saying around here lots of groups go out there way to welcome brand new members but if you've been around a few years and always changing groups every now and then folks ( especially AA folks!) start to think your still doing some sort of geographical move to get away from trouble?
Over the last 18 yrs I've been in 6 different groups. Mind you one of them only lasted about 6 weeks, until i made it to a group conscience meeting and observed the group tyrants blasting all the other members for there incompetence when clearing up!
The big danger here is some folks who run groups set themselves up as some sort of guru who enjoy a following, this is usually members younger in soberiety. It's no longer known as an AA group its ' Toms group or Harry's group.' Thats why guys like me find it hard to swallow there BS. But the worst part is their pigeons become so dependant on them that when the wise one finally grows old and dies the followers usually get drunk and fall of the edge of the planet. Partly because these poor souls have never been taught to stand on there own 2 feet in AA.
I suppose i was the same when i was going through my ' pioneer' phase in AA. Me and my friend still laugh at how we were going to rewrite the Big Book and do all sorts of stuff that had been working just fine for years before we came along.
Thankfully i matured out of my 'Pioneer' phase only to move onto my ' Billy Graham' phase. Boy if i thought i was a judgemental opinionated in your face drunk i cringe when i think what i was like then!