AA doesn't have any rules, general or specific -- on relationships.
Without having first-hand knowledge of all the people and situations involved in your situation --
I don't think anyone here could give you any sound suggestions.
It's difficult to understand why any sponsor wants to mix themselves up w/ personal relationship counselling for their sponsees. It's completely out of line.
I know some AA's that have been married 8 to 10 times, and still don't have a healthy relationship going on -- and they are counselling others on their relationships. LOL.
Then, again -- you can have the alkie guy or girl -- that spots a new potential catch -- and they tell the guy or girl they are involved w/ that "their sponsor" told them to leave the relationship -- rather than fess up to the truth.
My suggestion for you would be to ask yourself the question of:
"Why would I want to be attached to a person that is not mature enough, adult enough and well enough to manage their own relationship decisions -- and the person turns to "strangers" that they've recently met -- to tell them what to do in their relationships?"
Often, the answers will be something like:
1. I don't feel worthy of having the best.
2. I have some severe sense of personal inadequacy going on. And,
3. Fear of being alone.
4. Fear of rejection.
What is your answer?
What do you honestly think about it?
Are you a bad and an abusive person?
Do you deserve to have a "well" and "healthy" MAN in your life --
or would you rather settle for an injured "Little Boy" who needs a Momma?
You sound like a nice, decent and intelligent woman, with a kind and loving heart.
I would bet that: you're a very sensitive type.
You love animals & pets.
When you see a stray, or an unhealthy pet
you're willing to go out of your way to provide help, assistance and care for them --
You have a genuine and deep love for all creatures
And, you want to help them. And, you worry about them if you can't help them.
You've been hurt in the past -- either in childhood, or early teen years.
Would I lose my bet?
I wish the best for you in all areas of your life.
And, if we can be of help to you during this difficult time --
We're here for you!