Yeah that's cool.
But just when I got to No 2 about having a loving G-d or HP, well, that leaves out my second marriage. He was clean and dry but never worked the steps and certainly did not believe in G-d
However, when i got sick --i mean, when I had a few health problems, he was right there, comforting and supporting. He also supported me in life and career.
He denies that he believes in a HP but does believe there is a mysterious force that guides us and intervenes in our lives.
so when I was recovering recently from a very serious illness, he actually prayed over me when i asked him to.
I asked him who he was praying to and he said, whoever you believe in.
that was so sweet.
still we just could not live together. it is hard or impossible to live with somebody who doesn't work the steps an does not go to meetings.