Before you get too excited...
See if she will call you for the second time!
Many are chosen... but few call!
When I was a newcomer, I didn't want any of the men's phone numbers. I grew up in Hollywood!!! And, I wasn't attracted to men! When the men gave me their phone numbers... I'd think "yeah, you little perv! I'll bet you would like it if I wanted what you have!"
For the one's who seemed legit, and like they really did want to help me... I would hang on to their phone number until I found another newcomer to give it to... and say "Hey, if you want help... call this guy!"
For the one's I didn't like... I was rude and crude... I would drop their number on the floor, look them in the eye and say something like "Do I look like I need your help? I don't want what you've got!" (At least I was being honest. Heck, I didn't want to stay sober for a long time, or risk becoming an old-timer!)
Now... the women's numbers... I'd go for that! I would listen to them before I would listen to another man!
It wasn't just because I "wanted what they had and was willing to go to any length to get it" (Even though, sometimes I wouldn't have turned it down if it were offered).... I felt like I could trust the women. Maybe it had something to do with growing up in Hollywood!!!
Now, I realize that I could have kept all the men's phone numbers and not been so rude about it. It's come to be expected that when a guy says "Hey will you be my sponsor?" ... and I say "yes" I'll usually never hear from him again.
It's usually the one's that I say "I don't know about that... here's my number. Call me at 4:16 tomorrow and we'll talk about it." If they call on time (if they call at all), it let's me know the guy may be serious about going to any lengths to get over drinking. If he isn't at that point, I usually find that it's a waste of his time and mine to continue working with him.
That's no brilliant insight on my part. I think the best way to learn to be a good sponsor... is to have one. The best way to help someone is to have been helped myself. It's by being sponsored, and being a good Pigeon, that I have anything that's worthwhile that will help someone else.
Thanks for letting me share, again!