For about the first year of my sobriety, I studiously avoided bars and even restaurants where I used to drink, and I still don't keep alcohol in the house -- having it so close at hand still seems too much of a temptation for me.
My husband and I have been invited to parties, etc., where alcohol is served (or in some cases, overserved
), but I always make sure I have an alternate way home if I start to feel uncomfortable. Friends decided to throw us a going away party at a local watering hole when we were moving from Miami. After being surrounded by people drinking for a few hours, I decided I needed to leave, so I made sure Hubby had a ride home and I left.
It's funny -- at first, when we went to these parties, I had the "poor me's" -- I felt like a pariah, the only person not drinking, can't play with the grownups, etc. Now, it doesn't bother me as much, because I know that I'm not acting foolishly and I'm not going to suffer the hangover that they are!
I agree with anniemac about the legitimacy of being around alcohol -- if I don't have a good reason to be there, I don't need to be there.