I just did some online reading, and everyone knows everything you read on the internet is true, right?
Anyway, I think Dallas explained the answer I was looking for. I really am happy knowing this thing I've been noticing about levels of health is related to biochemistry, and not something "all about me".
What I read basically said just what Dallas said about people living alone dying sooner and having more health issues. Dallas talked about dogs too. Well it looks like the theory is something "biochemical", probably more than one single thing, happens when "companionship" enters the mix. It could be dogs, opposite-sex, or same sex-companions.
What apparently happens is that when a companion enters the picture, several elements that are somehow centered in the mind start producing physical manifestations. And it's all related to the need of survival whether it's family or civilization.
It seems that with a companion, either one of two things happen. Either the companions split up and become alone, or they decide to "survive" together instead of apart. When that happens, they say that there will be arguments and disagreements and dislikes and all kinds of things that are looked at as "negative". But what the companions do that decide to stay together after that "biochemistry" of romance you guys talked about goes away, is they "navigate" through their "differences" so that both companions "survive" together. It may start out as just survival in reconciling the disagreements of life together but it evolves into a matter of what allows each companion to live with more peace and comfort and still "survive" together.
Now this whole process is not a simple thing, but you can look at it and see what happens. The minds of companions are forced to do things to figure out a way to survive together that folks living alone don't do. So the brains use different activity centers, more of this, less of that, and it turns into a combination of (LISTEN TO THIS DALLAS) taking different actions which bring about different "biochemical" processes then what happens with single people.
I'm pretty amazed at how this stuff ties into the program and why it works, too. So things happen at lets say a primative level that let the companions realize they have to survive together for life. So their brains start sorting out almost automatically the things that would be destructive for themselves and their companion, and they almost just as automatically abandon ideas and thoughts like that. Like as an example, if I make a decision to marry my fiance, and that decision comes from the survival need, I don't waste time thinking about ways to end the companionship or get rid of the other person.
Now I might not like knowing that I have to give up certain things to survive with another person, but I take those actions because I have to. But over time it evolves into resolving the differences that caused the negative arguments, disagreemts, and dislikes at first. This is what they mean by "the honeymoon is over" which is when it seems like all hell breaks loose. Call it a "disillusionment" of one partner and the other.
But the survival need comes into play over time and the disagreements get fewer not because one person likes the other so much, but that both companions are trying to get the most comfort or "pleasure" they can get while surviving together. The result is a longer life and better health for both companions. So two people don't even have to "love" each other to get the benefits of long life and better health - they only have to survive - and each one is driven by that need.
Well that's how I understood this as I was reading it. But the thing that I'm glad about is what I said about me actually feeling and living healthier when I'm involved in a realtionship that involves sex and closeness and intimacy.
I don't want to get to silly, but I started adding things up. I'll come out with this honestly. I take more showers and baths when I have a sexual partner then when I'm alone. I'll bet there's a lot of folks that will skip a shower or bath a night or two if nothing is going on with any partners and they just sit home and watch TV. What happens if I come into contact with lets say someone sick at the office? If my butt is in the shower every night because I don't want to be embarassed about being "ripe" around of my companion, then I just washed the same germs away that I didn't mind have hanging around being alone and watching TV. So it makes sense that I "feel" healthier or less sick with a girlfriend because I am healthier. I'm taking extra steps to insure a better comfort level for both of us.
And since everybody at my darn office has pciked up on this, yes there is girl that came into my life just recently. So to Dallas, I don't know if I'm "falling in love", but I haven't been finding a need to use my own hand these days, and I been using a little bit more of that expensive non-alcoholic cologne-oil.
There it goes again - funny how other folks around you can pick up on things like this. Three people I come into contact with at my office building asked me with that "I know what you've been up to" tone in their voice - they all asked "Well how was your weekend?" as if I was a different person. Any other time they'd just say hello. But now it's an inquisitive grin and asking nosey questions. So it all makes sense so much that the people that know you can tell something happened that makes your face and demeanor look different when you get into a realtionship. I guess it must show that I'm looking healthier because I'm taking more actions to be healthier.
I cracked up at your little line Rev Finch: If I'm using my own hand things will look up soon. Bwahahahahaha! I love your sense of humor! "things will look up" uh-uuhh - girl watch yourself!
This is a fun thread - and it is even funnier thinking about when it started I was more concerned about being sick so long and where it is now, I'm on the other side in a relationship.
Hey Finch, what are the signs of relationship dependency? Let me first say that I'm looking into this for a friend, and obviously not myself!