You should be hearing about morals every time you go to a meeting..Every one of the 12 steps has a Moral..ie,1st step: admitting we were powerless=honesty etcDallas wrote:I've noticed that we don't hear much about "Morals" in sobriety -- in our meetings. I don't know if it's because talking about morals seems religious to some folks and they are offended by it -- or, if it's just something that we'd rather evade.
Our 4th Step specifically refers to a "moral" Inventory.
When I was newly sober in AA, I wanted to avoid any "moral" discussion. Primarily, because I was happy to keep my lower standards for my behavior.
Then, I came face to face with the fact that I was going to have to change... if I wanted to stay sober for the long-haul.
For me, my spirituality would not be spirituality -- without making moral choices and moral decisions.... followed by taking actions that are congruent with my moral ideals for myself.
When I make moral choices -- I feel good about me and who I am. And, for me, feeling good about me -- was a strange concept... I didn't know what it was like to legitimately feel good about myself.
Perhaps, it was because my self-esteem was so low -- because I had continued to try to lower my moral standards to meet my circumstances.... until I reached a stage of pitiful and incomprehensible demoralization.
For me, it was critical for me to change and to continue to continue changing... so that eventually I would feel good about me. Without developing a positive and healthy self-esteem... I somehow knew that my sobriety would be precarious.
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