Good morning Robert,
I am sorry to hear about your daughter. My father is an active alcoholic and he is one sick puppy. I haven't spoken to him in years. Unfortunately, unlike your daughter, I had to live with him until I was 13. The beatings, rage, anger, etc. were unbelievable and no child should have to suffer that. I hated that man with every fiber of my being.
Then I ended up just like him. All that rage and anger were in me.
Thankfully I didn't beat my son, but I think I did just as much damage because I said some horrible things to him and now he's just as angry as me. It's really sad.
Anyway, a lady said something at a speaker meeting that really hit home for me. She said, "then I realized that my father had the same feelings as me, he has the same disease as me." And that's where the healing began for her and my hatred for my father began to diminish.
Hopefully, some day someone will say something to your daughter that will allow her to heal and let go of all that pain and anger.
You're a fine example of a recovering alcoholic, thank you for sharing.