I'm not sure if I should post on this one or not. My ideas may be a little strange to some AA's.
There is a difference in Expectations and Demands.
And, there are realistic and unrealistic expectations.
If I think I can jump off the top of a tall building... and grow wings on the way down... Well, that's probably unrealistic... Unless... I'm dreaming or meditating. So, that means... semantics are important.
Fxpectation is much like Faith.
Expectation is a power. It's required for anything that we decide to do.
Example: We wouldn't get up and turn on a water faucet if we didn't expect that water would come out. We wouldn't turn the handle... if we didn't have faith... to get up out of the chair and walk to the kitchen, and believe that water would come out... if we turned the handle.
I didn't believe nor did I expect that AA would work for me. For me... as far as I was concerned (and probably in agreement with many who knew me)... the expectation of staying sober... was unrealistic. And, it was an unrealistic expectation (so, I thought)... that AA would work for me.
However, I decided to do it anyway. The work. Even though I didn't believe it or expect it. What else was I going to do?
Faith comes as a result of taking actions... and we "come to believe"... as a result of our experience.... and, suddenly... we have faith.
I read somewhere... that Faith is the substance of things hoped for... the evidence of things not seen.
I hoped AA would work for me... but, to me, it was unrealistic to believe that it would.
Guess what? I'm still sober since November 14th, 1986... and AA worked and is still working for me.
I now have the faith in AA. I even have some faith in myself... because it was me that decided to do the work... and I did it.
I know what to EXPECT. If I do the work... I'll get what the work produces... and if I stop doing the work... I'll pick up a drink automatically. That's alcoholism. The inability to leave alcohol alone. So, I have to keep taking actions... and those actions keep me sober.
Expectation is a good thing... provided... that the expectation does not violate the laws of God or the rights of individuals.
Faith is the same way.... it's a good thing... provided that it does not violate the laws of God or the rights of other people.
Faith is a power... Like a higher power. A force.
Expectation is a power... Like a higher power. A force.
Electricity is a power... Like a higher power. A force.
I can use the electricity to fry my bacon... or I can use or miss-use it and fry my butt!
The bottom line? Expecation, like faith, and electricity... is only safe to use... when a reasonable degree of sanity is included by the user.