Robert wrote:WHAT DOES IT REFER TO, EVER HAD ONE---COULD IT BE HELPFUL TO A NEWCOMER? "OUR PRIMARY PURPOSE IS TO............."
A "dry drunk" is an AA slang phrase that refers to "the twisted alcoholic thinking, toxic emotions and abnormal behaviors that are exhibited in an alcoholic that is sober and not drinking alcohol.... and isn't treating their alcoholic malady."
Alcoholics reach a place in there malady that will not allow them to live comfortably with or without drinking. Drinking is the treatment that treats the alcoholic condition. Take away the drinking -- and the alcoholic is like a mental patient without medication.
This is why -- if the alcoholic is to remain sober -- not drinking -- they will need to find a way to live comfortably without alcohol.
This is where AA comes to their aid.
AA offers a plan of recovery to treat the alcoholic malady that will allow the alcoholic to live comfortably and to pursue a happy and productive life without alcohol.
Big Book page 143 wrote: "... To get over drinking will require a transformation of thought and attitude. We all had to place recovery above everything, for without recovery we would have lost both home and business."
The above quote from the Big Book is located in the Chapter to Employers, and some of the instructions and suggestions that should be given to the new man (or woman) alcoholic -- that desires to get sober and remain sober.
So... Your question: "Would it be helpful to the newcomer?" (assuming you mean to tell them what to expect)... the answer would be "yes".
Your reference to the preamble with: "Our primary purpose is to..." (stay sober and help other alcoholics to achieve sobriety."
This is often used as an argument that I've heard from well meaning AA's... who conclude that trying to help the new person avoid the next drink is what we should be doing... to help them achieve sobriety. And, it is based on a misconception of alcoholism.
Hey... if we alcoholics could get better by not drinking... we would have stopped drinking before we got to AA! We wouldn't need AA. No sponsors. No meetings. No 12 Steps. No reason to treat the condition -- that literally drives us back to drinking!
Yes... we first have to stop drinking before we can take the next right action... which will be to treat our alcoholism with a sufficient substitute... for the alcohol. That's so that we can "maintain our state of sobriety" after it has been achieved.
So, it should be explained to the newcomer "why they can't drink like they used to... and why not drinking will probably kill them.... if they do not find a sufficient substitute for the alcohol." And, the treatment that we offer in AA... is a plan of recovery that must be pursued so that they can get well... and maintain their sobriety... by finding a way to live happily and comfortably without alcohol.