You're a real rascal
- I tell you what!
Tryin' to get me to look around in here and smash ego, are ya? get to that in a minute...
First and most importantly, I agree with everything you said. 100%.
I love these little bits from what you said:
For me, "turn it over" doesn't mean that I "give something away" -- it means that I "turn it over and look at the other side of it." And, I've made it a nasty habit of "trying to see something from different angles."
I just found that for me, it often makes me feel better, and I feel more confident and at peace, when I look at it from different angles.
And, at the end of the day... you're probably right!
And, I'd rather be happy than be right! So, I don't mind being wrong as long as being wrong keeps me happy, joyous and free!
I don't know if anyone has ever told you this, but I will today. You are very eloquent. You have great presentation, and I truly admire your style.
I did say many men are pigs, plain and simple. But with that, I also know that many men are not pigs
, plain and simple. But there is one thing I did leave out.
If many men are pigs - buddy let me tell you what - then there was one time when I was their king. It takes a pig to know a pig, PLAIN AND SIMPLE. I was "King Pig" at one time in my life, and I'm not exempt from regaining that crown again!
But let me go back and retract my statement. I should not ever refer to any man as a "pig". God made pigs, and I don't want to give a bad name to something God made which is good. Besides, I really REALLY love good bar-be-que!
What I should have said is that there are many men that don't respect women, and that's sad. Sometimes it disturbs me when I see it so blatantly. But on the other hand, many men do respect women, and that's something to admire.
I've seen a good share of abused women and children along my journey through life, and it breaks my heart. I remember the look in their eyes, and the way they apologize to me about everything like they were sorry to be taking up air that belongs to me. There's a lady I know and love today that almost got killed by a man that didn't respect her, but he swore to God that he would love and respect her, once he did. It's not a nice thing to see how that kind of hurt takes so long to go away. It's a deep hurt that causes more hurt for a long time. Sometimes it makes me cry to be observant enough to see those subtle behaviors that come years later in the aftermath of "violent forms" of disrespect. Not a pretty site.
Which leads me to the "ego-smashing" part of why I get disturbed, which is what I thank you for, Dallas, my loving brother.
I find myself saying "those bass-turds make it twice as hard for a good man (like me) to be trusted." Get my drift?
I'm disturbed because I think that I have to work twice as hard at being a respectful and trusting man because the man before me was "a pig". In a similar way, many women and people of different colors feel like they have to work "twice as hard" because one of their number acts in a "stereotypical" way and "makes it harder for the rest of us". The thing I just noticed upon taking my inventory about this (thanks again Dallas!), is that it doesn't matter what race, creed, sex, religion, lifestyle, or anything else I count myself as belonging to, in order to be "successful" it seems I have to work twice as hard because there is some "slacker" somewhere that gives me
a "bad name".
So what I needed to do, really, is change the way I look at things. To be "good" at anything in life means that I will always need to "work harder".
Well the book says it this way on page 60:
"The principles we have set down are guides to progress. We claim spiritual progress rather than spiritual perfection."
Now there's one that I can apply across the board to everything. If I want to make progress, I need to "strive". Which means I will work harder, maybe twice as hard. This is where my ego needs to get smashed
. NOBODY, NOT EVEN GOD, has demanded
that I must work twice as hard
to achieve anything. NOBODY, NOT EVEN GOD, has demanded
that I HAVE TO
STRIVE for anything or make any kind of progress.
I don't have to strive: I get to strive
. It's a matter of my willingness
. It's the choice
I now have as a sober member of Alcoholics Anonymous. Well then, if it's my choice, I suppose I don't need to have the world know that I'm working "twice as hard" as a slacker. For crying out loud, that's what I signed up for in the first place!
You know that carpenter fellow had something to say about this. He said if a man signs up for a job and agrees to get paid 10 bucks an hour at the beginning of the day, and he gets paid 10 bucks an hour at the end of the day, then it don't matter whether anyone else gets paid more or less, and he shouldn't be complaining. The man signed up for 10 bucks an hour and that's exactly what he got. "'Nuff said"!
Just one more thing bro. You said you'd rather be happy than right, and you don't mind being wrong if it keeps you happy, joyous, and free. Well you can also be right and be happy, joyous, and free, just like you are now. You are right!
Thanks for the view from "the other side". See how you helped me grow today Dallas?
God bless you, and you know I love you too, man!