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[Dallas]

Those Other People

"Just like you, I have often thought myself the victim of what other
people say and do. Yet every time I confessed the sins of such
people, especially those whose sins did not correspond exactly with
my own, I found that I only increased the total damage. My own
resentment, my self-pity would often render me well-nigh useless to
anybody.

"So, nowadays, if anyone talks of me so as to hurt, I first ask myself if
there is any truth at all in what they say. If there is none, I try to
remember that I too have had my periods of speaking bitterly of
others; that hurtful gossip is but a symptom of our remaining
emotional illness; and consequently that I must never be angry at the
unreasonableness of sick people.

"Under very trying conditions I have had, again and again, to forgive
others--also myself. Have you recently tried this?"

Letter, 1946

As Bill Sees It , p.268

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I understand.

One of the most harmful things that I've experienced in the Fellowship is
hurtful gossip. It's a real tough one to deal with. The solution above is one that I learned to use a long time ago -- and it's helpful for me to remember it.

Dallas

[ccs]

Oh yeah the power of the tounge (its sharper than a two edged sword)

just when I think I`m not practicing my program I relize that I really am

just last week something at work with a coworker was going on and my first reaction was of course not the right one but I (pondered it) before I did or said anything all that pondering was me actually useing the tools of my program to come to a conclusion of what does it really matter anyway I`m sick she`s sick and 2 sicks do not make a well!!

I prayed for her and for help to do the right thing wich was nothing at all and two days later she texts me this really insightful little prayer thing
I text her back thankyou for reminding me ! she says your welcome!!
now the air is cleared and we are joking around with eachother again she`s even friend requested me on facebook since then

so even when I think that I`m far from the program GOD takes over and reminds me to practice it and ask HIM for help

Thanks D that was right inline with whats up with me HOW did you Know that
LUV-2-ALL Cess

[Dallas]

Thank you, Cessie. I appreciate you -- and all that you do for me, with every post that I read from you! It really makes my day!

Dallas